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 LADY AND HER FRIENDS

 lady does not live in isolation; she understands very well that no man is an island unto himself. She is therefore friendly and has friends.

A lady values her friends. She would not say or do things deliberately to hurt them or make them feel inferior to her. If she does, she quickly works at correcting it.

She knows the worth of her friends. She works at protecting her friends and helping them. A lady dreams the best for her friends. She holds their secrets secret. She would never betray the trust that her friends have in her.

When a lady is with her friends, she refrains from centering the discussion on herself. She would rather listen to her friends and make them feel important around her.

A lady celebrates her friends’ achievements and is not afraid (nor will she hesitate) to commend them for a job well done. She passes her compliments cheerfully without envy.

When a lady finds herself in the wrong company of friends, she knows that it is better to be alone than to be in the wrong crowd.

In choosing her friends a lady applies an ancient wisdom that says: TWO CANNOT WALK TOGETHER EXCEPT THEY AGREE.

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A LADY GOES TO DINNER

After a lady has been seated, her first action is always to place her dinner napkin in her lap. She does not wait for the server to do so. If she briefly leaves the table during dinner, she leaves the napkin, loosely folded, in the chair. A lady never places her napkin back on the table until she is finished with her meal and about to leave.

If the table has been set correctly, a lady has no problem knowing which fork, spoon, or knife to pick first. When she sits down at the table, she will find her flatware and her cutlery set out in the order in which she will need it. When the first course arrives, she uses the fork that is farthest away from he plate. When she is finished with that course, she leaves her fork on her plate, and it is taken away. She proceeds in the same manner throughout the meal so that by the time dessert arrives, she will have only one fork, spoon, or knife left. If by chance the flatware has been arranged in the wrong order, a lady still follows this logical system. In such cases, the person setting the table has caused the confusion.

A lady does not talk with her mouth full. A lady knows to start with the fork on the outside. If the salad fork is in the wrong place, she does not make a scene. When she finishes eating, she places her knife and fork on her plate.

She does not salt her food before tasting it. She would never insult the cook that way.

When faced with a plate of long pasta – such as spaghetti, linguine, etc, a lady resists every temptation to hop it up with her knife and fork. Instead, she twirls a manageable mouthful around the tines of her fork and, with the help of a spoon, transfers it to her mouth.

A lady does not engage in a debate over politics or religion or other sensitive issues at the dinner table. A lady does not crunch her ice and she knows when it is acceptable to drink through a straw.

A lady usually says ‘Thank-you’ to her host after a dinner.

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 A LADY AND MONEY

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lady knows that money does not grow on trees as some people think, nor does she have to ‘sell’ her body in order to make money as some foolishly do.

She understands that money is given in exchange for value added. She refuses to eat the bread of idleness but engages her hands in activities that would yield profit at the end of the day. To her there is dignity in labour.

She sees money as a means to an end, not an end in itself. Therefore she is not ruled by it but uses her money to support and promote noble causes within the society.

She is prudent in her spending habits. She does not buy things on impulse, but has a budget and plan from which she operates. She also does not spend all she earns, nor does she spend above her income. She invests the little she sets aside from her earnings.

 She is a woman who can be trusted with money. She does not steal money from her friends, place of work, and others around her. Even if she must borrow some money, she endeavours to pay back as soon as she can.

A lady is generous to God and those around her. Because of this, she faithfully gives God one tenth of her increase and contributes towards assisting the needy members of the society.

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A LADY GETS DRESSED

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 lady is mindful of her appearance at all times. She builds her wardrobe on a foundation of well-made clothes that will enhance her overall beauty. She dresses the way she wants to be addressed and to suit the occasion.

She chooses clothes that will not be out of style after a season and will endure repeated cleaning and wear. She knows that her posture is as important as any article of clothing on her back.

She does not wear clothes so revealing that they embarrass and distract others. Because of this, she wears a camisole if her blouse or dress is sheer enough to reveal the details of her underwear or the ‘private’ parts of her body.

She knows whether she has the figure to wear tight clothing. She knows that just because an item of clothing comes in her size does not mean she should wear it. She also does not buy clothes a size too small in hopes that she will one day be able to wear them.

She is careful about the choice of colours and jewelry she wears. She should prefer to have someone looking at her in the eye instead of watching her earrings swing back and forth during an animated conversation. She also chooses to wear clean clothes and underwear.

A lady knows that trends come and go, while true style is timeless. She knows that false congeniality is as obvious as bad false eyelashes.

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A LADY AND PURPOSE

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A lady understands that there is a purpose for everything in life. She knows deeply that if the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. She seeks to discover her purpose in life and identify with it.

She knows who she is; her background and her destination. She knows she is not on earth by accident nor as a result of a scientific chemical reaction that occurred in a laboratory. She is thankful for her strengths, skills, abilities and tries to use them to make the world a better place.

 She sees life as a privilege, an opportunity to make a difference, to add value, to build, to lift up and to help others whenever necessary. Because of this, she is always on her toes, trying to make every moment and every encounter with her count in eternity.

She views issues from an eternal perspective. Her desire is to leave a legacy for others to emulate. She would not be associated with corruption or other social vices that would ruin her testimony.

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Her motto for living is: a good name is better than silver and gold.

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A LADY AND TIME

A lady knows that time is one of her most precious and valuable resources. She understands that it is perishable, irreplaceable and cannot be saved. she therefore learns how to manage it well.

She prioritizes her life in order to make herself available to family, friends, career, and other important considerations in her life. She also knows when she is feeling stretched too thin and how to pull back and sort out her priorities.

Because she understands how important time is, a Lady respects other people's time whether at the office or at home. She makes every effort not to be late for meetings, events or appointments. She knows how long it takes for her to get ready and does not keep others waiting. If she is going to be late, she phones ahead.

Though sometimes a lady may arrive late at events, she waits until there is an appropriate pause and then very quietly slips into her seat, or follows the instructions of the ushers.

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